Five Types of Affairs

marital affair emotional affairsFew things in life hurt more than being betrayed by some one you love. When a spouse cheats either emotionally, physically with a sexual affair, or with infidelity through pornography the devastation is crushing.

Five Types of Affairs

  • Low rent rendezvous
    This is your typical one night stand and may be a one-time betrayal. These often occur in conjunction with drinking and anonymity. The core of the betrayal is based upon bad choices, poor boundaries, lack of integrity, and the opportunity to act. This exercise relational quiz can help you gain understanding about the destructive emotional dance you dance when fighting with your spouse.

    • An affair of convenience or opportunity. It is not something sought out, but rather occurs as the result of an opportunity that is presented.
    • The betrayer does not want to leave the marriage.
    • There is not an ongoing relationship.
    • Does not necessarily indicate more severe problems in the marriage.
  • Lonely hearts club
    Characterized by two individuals who believe they are “in love”. The betrayer believes he or she has “fallen in love” and feels powerless over powerful emotions. The betrayer may feel guilt, but feels they are unable to be happy in their marriage and therefore must / should / or deserves to be with the affair partner.

    • Unlike low rent rendezvous this type often does indicate a deeper problem in the marriage.
    • Betrayer wants out of the marriage.
    • Betrayer seems incapable of making decisions as to what they are going to do.
  • Looking for love in all the wrong places
    These affairs are committed by those with an ongoing patter of sexual betrayal such as frequenting topless bars and/or adult bookstores, viewing pornography, compulsive masturbation, prostitution, repetitive encounters with sexual partners, and other behaviors that are destructive to both the individual and to the marriage relationship. Interestingly, this category of affairs is not about the marriage, and often the betrayer will state they do not want their marriage to fail. Betrayers often feel hopelessly trapped by their behaviors.
    This type of betrayal is especially difficult for the spouse because their suffering is not just from the betrayal, but also from their inability to understand their mate’s behavior. What the addict has done seems so foreign the spouse cannot comprehend it. Or they are in shock when they discover the sheer magnitude of the compulsive behavior (like the man who visited more than 300 prostitutes).

    • It is common for the betrayer to have made past efforts to stop the behavior, and to have actually been successful for a season, only to relapse after they believed things were better.
    • Typically the betrayer wants to save their marriage, but has a compelling drive to look elsewhere to meet their needs.
    • Often these behaviors began before marriage, stopped after marriage, and then began again after the addict realized the marriage couldn’t meet the need met by the addictive behavior.
    • This article discusses the difference between porn-related sex and healthy sex
    • This article discusses the hazards of pornography
  • Having your cake and eating it too
    This is an affair where the betrayer is involved with a single person, but at the same time he or she does not want to leave their marriage. To them, the affair partner is a “soul mate”. These affairs frequently spring from relationships where two individuals share something in common they don’t share in common with their mate. It is as if this person develops two lives.

    • Individuals want to stay married
    • However, betrayers do not want to give up the affair partner
    • The betrayers life is divided into two very distinct parts; the relationship with the affair partner and their relationship with their spouse
    • You’re not my lover; you’re my friend
      This relationship is commonly referred to as the emotional affair. Although some would not consider an emotional entanglement an affair, this type of relationship can be just as devastating and destructive as a sexual affair. If a mate is closer to a friend than to their spouse, then it’s already an affair.

      • Boundary issues are a factor
      • Betrayer keeps secrets with their friend instead of their spouse
      • Betrayer wants to stay married but does not want to choose between the friend and their spouse

 

Adapted from Rick Reynolds 5 Types of Affairs.

While the pain of infidelity is devastating it doesn’t have to equal divorce. It is possible not only to heal from an affair, but also to have a stronger marriage after than before.

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Common Experiences for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

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Common Experiences for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Assault

  • Setting Limits/Boundaries
    • Because someone you trusted and depended on invaded your personal boundaries when you were young, you may have trouble understanding that you have the right to control what happens to you.
  • Memories/Flashbacks
    • Like many survivors, you may experience flashbacks.
  • Anger
    • This is often the most difficult emotion for an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse to get in touch with.
    • As a child your anger was powerless and had little to no effect on the actions of your abuser. For this reason you may not feel confident that you anger will be useful or helpful.
    • Anger may seem to be directed at innocent people in your life today or you may have a generalized since of anger about life.
    • Anger with God is very common and not something God can’t handle.
  • Grieving/Mourning
    • Being abused as a child means the loss of many things- childhood experiences, trust, innocence, normal relationship with family members (especially if the abuser was a family member).
    • You must be allowed to name those losses, grieve them, and then bury them.
  • Guilt, Shame, and Blame
    • You may carry a lot of guilt because you may have experienced pleasure or because you did not try to stop the abuse.
    • There may have been silence surrounding the abuse that led to feelings of shame.
    • It is important for you to understand that it was the adult who abused his/her position of authority and should be held accountable, not you.
  • Trust
    • Learning to trust again may be very difficult for you.
    • You may find that you go from one extreme to the other, not trusting at all to trusting too much.
    • You may find it difficult to forgive or understand the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.
  • Coping Skills
    • You have undoubtedly developed skills in order to cope with the trauma.
    • Some of these skills are healthy (possibly separating yourself from family members, seeking out counseling, etc.)
    • Some are not (drinking or drug abuse, promiscuous sexual activity, eating disorders etc.)
  • Self-esteem/Isolation
    • Low self-esteem is a result of all of the negative messages you received and internalized from your abusers.
    • Because entering into an intimate relationship involves trust, respect, love, and the ability to share, you may flee from intimacy or hold on too tightly for fear of losing the relationship.
  • Sexuality
    • You likely have to deal with the fact that your first initiation into sex came as a result of sexual abuse.
    • You may experience the return of body memories while engaging in a sexual activity with another person. Such memories may interfere in your ability to engage in sexual relationships, which may leave you feeling frightened, frustrated, or ashamed.

What should I do if I am sexually assaulted or raped?

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  1. Find a safe environment – anywhere away from the attacker. Ask a trusted friend to stay with you for moral support.
  2. Know that what happened was not your fault and that now you should do what is best for you.
  3. Report the attack to police by calling 911. If you want more information, a counselor on the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE can help you understand the process.
  4. To preserve evidence of the attack – don’t bathe or brush your teeth.
  5. Write down all the details you can recall about the attack & the attacker.
  6. Get medical attention. Even with no physical injuries, it is important to determine the risks of STDs and pregnancy.
  7. To preserve forensic evidence, ask the hospital to conduct a rape kit exam.
  8. If you suspect you may have been drugged, ask that a urine sample be collected. The sample will need to be analyzed later on by a forensic lab.
  9. If you know that you will never report, there are some things you should still consider:
  10. Get medical attention. Even with no physical injuries, it is important to determine the risks of STDs and pregnancy.
  11. Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, for free, confidential counseling, 24 hours a day: 1-800-656-HOPE.
  12. Recognize that healing from rape takes time. Give yourself the time you need.
  13. Know that it’s never too late to call. Even if the attack happened years ago, the National Sexual Assault Hotline or the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline can still help. Many victims do not realize they need help until months or years later.

How can I help a loved one who has been raped or sexually assaulted?

There are many ways that you can help a friend or family member who has been raped or sexually assaulted:

  • Pray. Ask God for help in this difficult time, and ask Him to give you wisdom about what steps to take.
  • Listen. Be there. Don’t be judgmental.
  • Help to empower your loved one. Rape and sexual assault are crimes that take away an individual’s power, it is important not to compound this experience by putting pressure on your loved one to do things that he or she is not ready to do yet.
  • If you are dealing with an issue involving your child, create a safe place by talking directly to them.
  • If you are the non-abusing parent in a case of incest, it is important to support your child and help them through this situation without blaming them. This is also true if you are not a parent but still an observer of incest.
  • If you’re loved one is considering suicide, follow-up with them on a regular basis.
  • Encourage your loved one to report the rape or sexual assault to law enforcement (call 911 in most areas). If your loved one has questions about the criminal justice process, talking with someone on the National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1.800.656.HOPE, can help.
  • Let your loved one know that professional help is available through the National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1.800.656.HOPE, the Victim Center Springfield Missouri 417.864.7233, and The Relationship Center 855.593.4357 (855.5WE.HELP) for ongoing recovery.
  • If your loved one is willing to seek medical attention or report the assault, offer to accompany him or her wherever s/he needs to go (hospital, police station, campus security, etc.)
  • Encourage him or her to contact help, but realize that only your loved one can make the decision to get help.

Was I Raped?

was i rapedSexual wounds are often the deepest of all. They violate something inside us that is meant to be respected and delighted in. If you’re a survivor of rape, incest, or another form of sexual abuse, The Relationship Center is here to help you find healing.

 Was I Raped?

The exact definition of “rape”, “sexual assault”, “sexual abuse”, and similar terms differs by state. The wording can get confusing, since states often use different words to mean the same thing or use the same words to describe different things. So, for a precise legal definition, you need to check the law in your state. But here are some general guidelines based on the definitions used by the U.S. Justice Department. Please note that these definitions are a bit graphic, which is inevitable when describing crimes this violent.

  • Rape is forced sexual intercourse, including vaginal, anal, or oral penetration. Penetration may be by a body part or an object.
  • Sexual assault is unwanted sexual contact that stops short of rape or attempted rape. This includes sexual touching and fondling.

There are three main considerations in judging whether or not a sexual act is consensual or legally considered a rape or sexual assault.

  1. Were the participants old enough to consent?
  2. Do the people have the capacity to consent?
  3. Did both participants agree to take part?

It’s important to remember that even if a sexual encounter is not legally considered a rape or sexual assault, it can still be very traumatic and have negative emotional consequences.

Common Rape Questions

  • I didn’t resist physically, does that mean it isn’t rape? People respond to an assault in different ways. Just because you didn’t resist physically doesn’t mean it wasn’t rape, in fact, many victims make the good judgment that physical resistance would cause the attacker to become more violent. Lack of consent can be express (saying no) or it can be implied from the circumstances (for example, if you were under the statutory age of consent, or if you had a mental defect, or if you were afraid to object because the perpetrator threatened you with serious physical injury).
  • My body responded physically, does that mean it isn’t rape or that I wanted it? It’s not uncommon at all for a rape victim’s body to respond sexually to unwanted sexual contact. Our bodies are designed to respond to sexual stimuli. This can even be protective in that by your body responding normally to the sexual contact it may have prevented more serious physical damage. Just because your body responded sexually to the contact does not mean that it wasn’t rape or that you wanted it to happen.
  • I used to date or am married to the person who assaulted me, does that mean it isn’t rape?
    Rape can occur when the offender and the victim have a pre-existing relationship (sometimes called date rape, or “acquaintance rape”), or even when the offender is the victim’s spouse. It does not matter whether the other person is an ex-boyfriend or a complete stranger, and it doesn’t matter if you’ve had sex in the past. If it is nonconsensual this time, it is rape.
  • I don’t remember the assault, does that mean it isn’t rape?
    Just because you don’t remember being assaulted doesn’t necessarily mean it didn’t happen and that it wasn’t rape. Memory loss can result from the ingestion of GHB and other “rape drugs”, and from excessive alcohol consumption. That said, without clear memories or physical evidence, it may not be possible to pursue prosecution (talk to your local crisis center or local police for guidance).
  • I was asleep or unconscious when it happened, does that mean it isn’t rape?
    Rape can happen when the victim was unconscious or asleep. If you were asleep or unconscious, then you didn’t give consent. And if you didn’t give consent, then it is rape.
  • I was drunk or he was drunk, does that mean it isn’t rape?
    Alcohol and drugs are not an excuse, or an alibi. Regardless of whether you were drunk or sober, if the sex is nonconsensual, it is rape.
  • I thought “no” but didn’t say it. Is it still rape?
    Yes and it depends on the circumstances. Yes from the perspective of your experience of the event, maybe from a legal perspective. If you didn’t say no because you were legitimately scared for your life or safety, then it may be rape. Sometimes it isn’t safe to resist, physically or verbally, for example, when someone has a knife or gun to your head, or threatens you or your family if you say anything. Even if the event is not legally considered a rape, it can still be extremely damaging and hurtful.

Free Sex Therapy Help

free sex therapyProfessional counseling is a big investment with a big benefits. It will cost you: time, energy, and money. In return you can…

  • Find healing for the hurting parts of your life
  • Enjoy more satisfying relationships
  • Learn how to better enjoy the sexual part of your life
  • Break destructive cycles
  • Better understand who you are as a sexual being
  • Gain the skills to be the best you possible

These Free Sex Therapy Resources – Recommendations can help you get the most out of your professional counseling experience.

 Helpful Sex Therapy Links

  • HealthySex.com / Wendy Maltz
    -Wendy Maltz is a field recognized expert in sex therapy. She addresses issues of sexual healing and freedom from pornography & sexual addiction. Though Wendy does not teach from an explicitly Christian perspective, many of her resources are intensely helpful.
  • Bethesda Workshops
    -Marnie Ferree and the team at Bethesda Workshops have put together a world class 4 day intensive treatment program for men and women who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction. The program is extremely effective and affordable. This program is Biblically Christian and clinically solid. Highly recommended.
  • Institute for the Study of Sexual Identity (ISSI)
    -Mark Yarhouse and the Institute for the Study of Sexual Identity are the leading authorities on sexual identity issues including same-sex attraction and gender identity confusion. Their model for helping people with distressing same-sex attractions or gay, lesbian, bi-sexual issues (Sexual Identity Therapy) is cutting edge and completely compatible with the Christian faith.
  • The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
    – The Sexual Healing Journey helps survivors to:

    • identify the sexual effects of abuse
    • create a positive meaning for sex
    • develop a healthy sexual self-concept
    • gain control over upsetting automatic reactions to touch and sex
    • stop negative sexual behaviors
    • improve intimacy with a partner
    • learn a new approach to touch and sex
    • resolve sexual functioning concerns
  • A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds
    – NOT JUST FOR NEWLYWEDS. This is a guide to enjoying God’s gift of married sexual pleasure. A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds answers specific, often unasked questions about sexual topics, and presents newly-married couples with detailed techniques and behavioral skills for learning sexual pleasure and intimate companionship. This book offers invaluable information in a professional yet sensitive style. If you have sex, or will be having sex, or hope to someday have sex ~ This book will help you! It maybe the best $10 you spend this year.
  • Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
    – Dr. Mark Laaser is the leading Christian expert in sexual addiction. He and his wife (author of Shattered Vows) are founders of the ministry Faithful and True that helps thousands who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction through resources and workshops.
  • When Lost Men Come Home
    – This book offers a Christ-centered application of the powerful 12 steps, developed and popularized by the fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous for those who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction. Dave Zailer has created a new, unique handbook for the journey, marrying the biblical context to the proven spiritual 12 steps program.
  • Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed
    – This sensitive and practical guide offers proven tools that help women struggling with sexual betrayal make wise and empowering decisions. Shattered Vows is inspired by the author’s personal journey through betrayal, her extensive work with hundreds of hurting women, and her intimate marriage two decades after the disclosure of her husband’s infidelity.
  • Sexual Identity: A Guide to Living in the Time Between the Times
    – Most people who attempt to change their homosexual attractions and behaviors experience only partial success despite their best efforts. Written for Christians whose beliefs and values support their work towards chastity, this book offers a unique look at how they can manage and develop their sexual identity through a number of practical strategies.
  • The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse
    – You may think you don’t know anyone who has been sexually abused, especially if most of your friends and acquaintances are Christians. But the statistics indicate otherwise. The Wounded Heart is an intensely personal and specific look at this most “soul deadening” form of abuse. Personal because it may be affecting you, your spouse, a close friend or neighbor, or someone you know well at church; and specific because it goes well beyond the general issues and solutions discussed in other books. Dr. Allender’s book reaches deep into the wounded heart of someone you know, exploring the secret lament of the soul damaged by sexual abuse and laying hold of the hope buried there by the One whose unstained image we all bear.

Frequently Asked Questions in Sex Therapy

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Marriage is tough. It gets even tougher if your experiencing difficulties in the sexual part of your marriage. It’s fairly normal for people to marry with the expectation of having regular sex. In fact, most even expect to enjoy it! When either of these normal marital expectations are frustrated it has a negative affect on the marital relationship.

Most couples don’t get married to be celibate and yet many couples are not experiencing the kind of sexual satisfaction they dreamed of before marriage. While sex isn’t everything in a marriage, it’s certainly an important part of the marriage relationship. It can be a source of great pleasure and intimacy when it’s happening right.

Many couples struggle silently for years with the shame, dissatisfaction, and hurt that come with a sexual problem. It doesn’t have to be that way. There is help available. Many normal couples come in for sexual counseling to help them overcome sexual obstacles and learn to enjoy God’s gift of sexuality to it’s fullest.

The counselors at The Relationship Center will help you understand God’s design for sexuality and how to enjoy sex at it’s best!

 An Intimate Marriage + Mature Lovers = A Fulfilling Sex Life

Frequently Asked Questions in Sex Therapy

Sex therapy can help you answer these and many more questions specific to your love life.

  • What about the use of sexual “toys,” including vibrators?
  • Is oral sex ok?
  • What about anal sex?
  • How can I experience regular orgasms?
  • What about couples using pornographic movies together? Is there such a thing as “Christian” porn movies?
  • Are certain positions or sexual practices “kinky” and not OK?
  • As a man, how can I prolong orgasm to better pleasure my wife?
  • Sex is painful…how is it suppose to be and what can we do to help?
  • Is this normal?
  • What if I just don’t “feel” like having sex?

Christian Sex Therapy / Sexual Wholeness

christian sex therapySexual Wholeness is about learning to enjoy, be comfortable with, and feel good about the sexual part of your life. The truth about sex is that it is God’s idea and He wants us to know how to enjoy His good gift best. God wants us to be free from hurt, disappointment, guilt, shame, and feelings of inadequacy so that we can be free to enjoy His gift of sexuality.

Sex therapy helps individuals and couples enhance sexual fulfillment and/or resolve sexual conflicts and problems. Solutions can vary from simple education to more extensive counseling around complex or longstanding issues. Strategies are tailored to the goals of the individual or couples seeking help. Sex therapy maintains ethical boundaries and is sensitive to the personal values of the client. Techniques include relationship and intimacy enhancement, strategic reading, specific behavioral interventions, therapy groups and referral/consultation with other professionals. Sex therapy can be a catalyst for healing and enrichment in the crucial sexual component of intimate relationships.

So why Christian sex therapy?
Christian sex therapy makes sense because sex is God’s idea. God created humans, and He created them as sexual creatures. He knows how our sexuality is meant to be and how it’s enjoyed most. God wants us to be at peace with our sexuality and enjoy it to it’s fullest potential.

While God created our sexuality to be something wonderful and reflective of Him, it can be the source of unbelievable pain. When God’s gift is violated or distorted by personal choices or at the hands of others, the results are hurt, shame, and loss of relationship. Sexual consequences, injuries, and struggles can be devastating. Yet, there is hope.

God is redemptive. This means our God wants to bring healing to the hurting and broken places in our life, including our sexuality. The counselors at The Relationship Center integrate the Truth of God’s word, through the power of the Holy Spirit, with the best of information the professional sex therapy field has to offer. The result is Biblically Christian professional sex therapy to help you experience peace, healing and satisfaction in the sexual part of your life.

6 Most Common Sexual Concerns

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  1. Lack of Sexual Fulfillment: are you just not enjoying sex or are you having difficulty experiencing orgasm?
  2. Pain from Sex: is sex painful for you either physically or emotionally?
  3. Feel Inadequate: do you feel inept or not good enough as a lover?
  4. Pornography or Sexual Addiction: do you struggle with using pornography or acting out sexually in ways that you’re ashamed of?
  5. Sexual Abuse, Trauma, or Rape: do you have emotional wounds from being mistreated or exploited sexually?
  6. Same-Sex Attractions: do you experience distressing same-sex attractions, question your gender, or wonder if you might be “homosexual” or “gay”?

Other Common Sexual Concerns

sexual desire concerns • erectile dysfunction • recovery from rape or sexual trauma • single adult concerns • distressing same-sex attractions • unconsummated marriages • pornography or sexual addiction • compulsive masturbation • orgasmic difficulties • problems of arousal • inadequate frequency • painful sex • sexual awkwardness • fear or avoidance of sex • gender identity issues • premature ejaculation • sexual performance concerns • infertility issues • dissatisfaction with ones sexuality • pre-marital sex education • performance anxiety & skill deficits • sexual changes with aging • sex problems after child birth • extramarital affairs

What is Sex Therapy?

sex therapy springfield missouriLet’s start with what sex therapy is not. Throw out of your mind anything you ever learned about sex therapy from TV, the movies, or the guy who knows a guy who went to sex therapy with his wife. Sex therapy is not about hyper-sexo-maniacs and the latest greatest sexual technique from the revised edition of the kama-sutra.

 Sex therapy helps individuals and couples enhance sexual fulfillment and/or resolve sexual conflicts and problems. Solutions can vary from simple education to more extensive counseling around complex or longstanding issues. Strategies are tailored to the goals of the individual or couples seeking help. Sex therapy maintains ethical boundaries and is sensitive to the personal values of the client. Techniques include relationship and intimacy enhancement, strategic reading, specific behavioral interventions, therapy groups and referral/consultation with other professionals. Sex therapy can be a catalyst for healing and enrichment in the crucial sexual component of intimate relationships.

It’s about learning to enjoy, be comfortable with, and feel good about the sexual part of your life. The truth about sex is that it is God’s idea and He wants us to know how to enjoy His good gift best. God wants us to be free from hurt, disappointment, guilt, shame, and feelings of inadequacy so that we can be free to enjoy His gift of sexuality.

Sex therapy is for normal people struggling in the sexual part of their life. It’s about helping people who experience…

Could you benefit from Sex Therapy?

  • Lack of Sexual Fulfillment – are you just not enjoying sex or are you having difficulty experiencing orgasm?
  • Pain from Sex – is sex painful for you either physically or emotionally?
  • Feelings of Inadequacy – do you feel inept or not good enough as a lover?
  • Pornography or Sexual Addiction – do you struggle with using pornography or acting out sexually in ways that you’re ashamed of?
  • Sexual Abuse, Trauma, or Rape – do you have emotional wounds from being mistreated or exploited sexually?
  • Same-Sex Attractions – do you experience distressing same-sex attractions, question your gender, or wonder if you might be “homosexual” or “gay”?

There are many reasons why normal people can use some help in the sexual part of their lives. Don’t let fear or embarrassment keep you from getting help and learning to enjoy God’s gift of sexuality to you.

Why you need premarital counseling

Ok, so you’re going to get married. You’re going to spend lots of money on a wedding, then spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE with this person. Doesn’t it make sense to invest a little time and money into making sure you start your marriage off on the right foot? The Relationship Center can help. Call us to set-up premarital sessions and make sure you have a strong foundation to build your marriage on.

Problems don’t go away after marriage, THEY GET WORSE!

premarital counseling Before the wedding is the best time to address your concerns. Ignoring concerns and hoping things will get better after the wedding is A BAD IDEA.

Important Topics to Cover Before You “Tie the Knot”

  • Who does what? What are the role expectations?
  • How do we make decisions when we don’t agree on the solutions?
  • What is SEX supposed to be like and what sexual baggage are we bringing into our marriage?
  • How important are KIDS / How soon do we want them?
  • Marriage brings two families together – Are there in-law concerns?
  • COMMUNICATION – COMMUNICATION – COMMUNICATION- It gets tougher after the wedding.
  • MONEY – Who will make it? Who will manage it? How will we spend it?

These are just a few of the important questions a marriage counselor can help you start thinking about in ways that will save your marriage a lot of heart ache down the road.

PreMarital Counseling can help your marriage be a dream come true!